One thing I’ve always practiced throughout my life and time as an entrepreneur, mostly because I’ve just felt like there is “no other way” but to do this, is that when something starts to feel heavy in my business, like I *really* don’t want to do it, or like I avoid doing it at all costs, even though I “need” to do it…
Is to find someone else to start doing what needs to be done, when it feels like I can no longer keep going.
I realised at a very young age (21-22) that I was really good at coming up with ideas and starting businesses, and getting clients…
And I was very good at promoting things and selling them based on the excitement and energy that came from my sharing my new idea or passion, or a solution to someone’s problem…
And I THRIVED on the momentum of launching, selling, helping people and seeing all the positive feedback and results that people were getting from whatever it was I was selling…
But usually after just a few months, (sometimes just a few weeks), I would feel the momentum fading, the energy decreasing, and things would start to feel heavy.
And I never really questioned it, though, like “why did I love this 3 weeks ago but now it feels like I’m trying so hard to force myself to keep going”…
I would just kind of acknowledge it, like, “ok, I don’t want to do this anymore, but, it needs to be done, so I need to find someone else who can do it & keep it going”.
In the beginning, not knowing much about systems, leadership, or the management of people, I made a lot of mistakes.
But I learnt from them and figured out more strengths and weaknesses in the process.
Such as I am really good at creating easy to follow systems and teaching people what to do… I am (or can be) a caring, inspiring leader who wants to make sure people are happy and doing their best…
But I’m a terrible manager. I hate checking up on people, and tracking progress and results, and I NEED to outsource that!
I’ve discovered I am a fabulous Visionary, always coming up with ideas for myself and others and I’m endlessly seeing different ways to promote, market, advertise and sell things…
I’m definitely a Polymath, it’s impossible for me to stay focussed on one thing, or one area of business, or one business model, or one industry even…
I must have several different ventures happening at once or I feel deeply bored and unmotivated… but I also must not try to actually be the person who physically does the work.
I’m excellent at launching new things, starting things, and teaching people how to do things in simple, easy to understand, easy to implement ways.
I am exceptionally motivated by making sure people are happy (clients / team / friends) etc.
And I am sharing all of this with you today:
1) Because it’s popped into my head and it wants to come out, and that’s how all my writing and ideas happen. Usually it’s because there is someone who really needs to hear or read this today, that’s normally what happens in the comments. So I have also decided to believe that I am some sort of mind reader or channel?? (Because I choose beliefs that make me feel good and happy and like life is fun and magical).
2) I want to remind you that you CAN (and should) always be focussing on and learning what YOUR actual strengths are by paying attention to how things do or do not make you FEEL in your life.
If you want to know your life purpose, or how to have a really great life that you love, it’s to “follow your bliss” and your flow zone, and to OWN your strengths, and ask for help with your weaknesses.
ESPECIALLY if you are a business owner, entrepreneur, and you are trying to build something great.
We all start out doing everything ourselves, but in order to keep growing, if you keep telling yourself that nobody else can do it the way you can, or that good people are hard to find, or that you can’t afford staff, well… it’s not true.
(Unless you keep thinking it over and over again and looking for reasons as to why it is true, in which case, your mind will make it so).
That’s your ego talking and it’s going to hold you back from reaching your fullest potential or from taking you to where your business or brand could actually go.
You may not be the same as me, you may be deeply happy doing your one thing and becoming a master at it, and there’s nothing wrong with that and there’s nothing wrong with the way I do things either.
But I just want to tell you that BEING IN YOUR ZONE OF GENIUS is what’s going to help you thrive the most in your life, and that you can build a support team of amazing people, with complimentary strengths and personality types to yours, and you can all work together to build something great and help a lot of people.
If you’re in isolation right now, if your work isn’t as busy, if you have extra time to think…
Start thinking about and identifying all the things that “FEEL HEAVY” to you.
The things that you need to do but you don’t want to and you feel like you really have to force yourself to do them.
And then start making a plan for how you can get those things off your plate when things start to return to a little bit of normality again.
Start to document and systemise how they are done, and how long each thing takes, and then you can start looking for someone to take that over.
Which will significantly reduce the pressure, the heavy energy, the resistance that you feel, and allow you to do more of what you love, what you are best at, and to really step into your gifts and flow zone with nothing holding you back.
If you’re a multi-passionate person like me, and you believe that you can own and run and make successful many different businesses / business models / products etc at once…
I want to also remind you & encourage you that YES YOU CAN!!
I’ve done this with spray tans, which moved to hair extensions, lash extensions, then to my own international wholesale ranges, online product stores, then to teaching people how to start their own businesses, how to market their own businesses, how to advertise on FB, set up their businesses to run without them, hire people, train people, lead people…
(All these businesses were running at once and across multiple locations because I was not actually doing the work myself, I hired a lot of people to finish and follow what I had started)
I’ve also owned businesses in web design, graphic design, promotional products (stubby coolers, fridge magnets), and most recently I’ve launched a new marketing / advertising agency that has hit a 7 figure run-rate in the first 2 weeks of launching and that I’ve *almost* set up to run without me (by systemising, hiring, training & delegating) within the last 2 weeks.
I often feel uncomfortable writing posts that are all “look at me and what I’ve done” but I do it anyway sometimes because I know I actually enjoy reading them from others, it inspires me, it reminds me of what is possible…
And today I want to remind you that you CAN DO ALL THE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO.
But you need to train yourself to not try to do them all yourself if you want to build something that can keep growing and that isn’t limited by your time, focus or energy.
Practice asking for help.
Practice letting go of control.
Practice telling yourself you don’t have to do everything yourself.
Practice telling yourself there are good people out there who want to help you.
Practice telling yourself you are worthy of support.
And just keep fucking practicing until you get really really good at it.
Ok, novel over.
Let me know if you needed to be reminded of this, and, if you’re going to do anything about it!