I just spent $7000 on diamonds and then got a foot massage to celebrate!
And I am slightly 💩 ing myself sharing this story and this post.
I have been wanting to buy myself diamond earrings for YEARS but kept talking myself out of it.
It was never the right time.
I didn’t need them.
That’s way too much money to spend on earrings!!
What if I lost them?
What would other people think??
Will people judge me or think I’m up myself or showing off?
Are my husband or parents going to tell me I wasted money or could have spent it on something else or could have got them cheaper elsewhere instead of just being proud of me & telling me I’m worth it? 🙈
(Several deep fears that have popped up regularly in life every time I start feeling proud of myself)!
Today, I decided to let go of those fears.
Although, I almost still changed my mind & went back to my comfort zone.
I even said to the lady when she told me the price of the diamonds I liked best that I would go get my foot massage first and “think about it” and then maybe come back…
And then I realised I was doing the same thing I’d been doing for the last 5 years since I first thought about the fact that I wanted to buy some for myself…
I was talking myself out of it, again.
I didn’t know why this was such a big deal to me though?
I mean in the last year I’ve bought a beautiful large house, an acre block of rainforest, spent hundreds of thousands on coaching and education, a new car, and international business class travel all which cost more than the earrings…
(And yes, I’ve worked very hard and gotten myself through a whole lot of other limiting beliefs, comfort zones, fears and challenges over the last 11 years to be able to do all of THOSE things)…
But THIS purchase still scared the crap out of me.
And I couldn’t figure out why.
Possibly because the belief or thinking pattern I had around it was that it was kind of a pointless purchase or that it wasn’t a good investment or didn’t get me anywhere new?
But the thing that I realised today, is that this purchase isn’t an investment in my business or my future, it’s an investment in ME.
And even though I have the money (now) I definitely didn’t always…
It was still a scary decision, but one I believe, I needed to make in order to take MYSELF to the next level.
The diamond earrings originally were something I wanted to buy to celebrate something significant happening in my business…
Such as reaching a certain milestone, turning over a certain amount of money etc
But each time I reached a goal I set (first 100 clients, first 7 figure year, first 6 figure month etc)
I still didn’t make the purchase because it still didn’t feel “good enough” ???
I realised today it wasn’t that the goal wasn’t good enough, it’s that deep down I still didn’t feel good enough!!!
And this was probably the most powerful thing I could do, just for myself, without anybody else around or to influence my decision…
To show myself.
I AM good enough.
And I want this for me.
And I’m allowed to have this.
No matter what anyone else thinks.
And that’s what matters.
So, I did it!
They are in my ears!
They are NOT coming out!
They are not even going to be a ‘special occasion’ thing, they now represent my new every day standard! 💎
(I even got the cute little diamond & white gold crescent moons as well as the 1 carat brilliant cut studs too) 🌙
I bet there is something like this for you in your life too.
Maybe it isn’t diamonds.
Maybe it’s buying yourself flowers.
Or an ice cream.
Or taking a course.
Or hiring a personal trainer.
I bet there is SOMETHING you’ve been thinking about doing for way too long, that you are totally capable of doing right now, and yet you keep talking yourself out of it…
What is it?
Will you join me in making the decision to let go of the fear, let go of the excuses, let go of worrying about what your partner, your friends, your parents or your employees will think?
Will you stop worrying about the money you’re going to “lose” and start focusing on how by seeing yourself as “worthy” in other areas of your life, you will start seeing yourself as worthy of making more money & a bigger impact in your business too?
And tell me, put it into the universe, email me what you are committed to doing for yourself!!
Stop selling your soul and start selling FROM YOUR SOUL.
Growing your business and attracting clients is a lot easier when you adopt this approach… let me explain…
You don’t need to feel greedy or selfish, or be pushy or forceful in order to be successful in business.
You don’t need to think you are annoying people or pressuring them in order to make money.
You don’t need to be afraid of people telling you no.
You don’t have to keep getting upset when people ignore you or don’t want to talk to you or purchase from you.
You don’t need to be the cheapest or the most affordable and you certainly don’t need to justify your prices to anybody if they think you are “too much” for them.
When you let go of your fears, and focus on helping more people vs making more money, you will actually start making more money and growing your business!
It’s time to start selling from soul.
Can I show you?
I’ve recorded a short little video and a PDF that you can watch and download right now for free that will help you start attracting more clients and improving your sales asap.
It’s currently pinned as an announcement inside my free Facebook group “Coffee With Carissa”. Click the link below to join.
Pop on over & join the group, make yourself a cuppa, check it out & see if it helps!
And if you do have questions on it just comment directly on the facebook video and ill respond
Love, Carissa xo.
Do you want to start teaching what you know how to do?
Before you jump in and start teaching others what you do well in your industry, it’s important to understand and be aware of what you are passionate about and who you are as a person.
In this week’s video, I share with you questions you can ask yourself and reflect on, before deciding to take your business to the next level.
Have you ever considered teaching others?
If you have and haven’t started yet, what has stopped you?
Email me and let me know, I’d love to help you start.
If you believe Facebook ads will work for you and that you’ll master them easily then they will and you will.
If you believe that they won’t and that it’s hard then they won’t and it will be.
If you believe you will be super successful no matter what happens in your life or business, then you will.
If you doubt that you will ever reach your goals because things keep going wrong and you feel people and the world are against you, then you won’t reach your goals and everything will be against you.
If you believe that everything is and will be fine, then it will be.
If you believe that people don’t respect you, then they won’t.
Choose your beliefs wisely.
They determine how your life goes.
Love, Carissa xo.
When unexpected things happen such as staff members leaving, or realising you’re not happy with where you are right now… it can totally feel like you are not moving forward and are trapped or moving backwards…
But the thing is, in life you are never going backwards, you are always moving forwards… and if you ever feel like you are stuck or going in reverse, here are some things that can help.
Let me know what you think.
When a client complains, these are normally the reasons why…
- Their expectations were not met. They did not get the results they were hoping for.
- They are having a not very nice time in other areas of their life, and so they are allowing that unhappiness to leak out in many different ways, including their experience with you.
- You made a mistake / did something wrong / didn’t treat them very well / didn’t make them feel good. Maybe you were also having a bad time / bad day?
- They just weren’t the right type of person for you and you weren’t the right type of person for them. Not a good energetic match. You just didn’t feel right about each other.
- They didn’t feel cared about or important, they felt taken for granted or used. Their emotional experience with you was not very good. Maybe you didn’t ask about them at all and just talked about yourself, or maybe you didn’t talk to them at all.
- They didn’t actually value their purchase, take care of it, follow instructions or take responsibility, and so chose to blame you for this instead of owning it because deep down they knew they were in the wrong but didn’t want to admit it. Angry at themselves.
I have definitely been on BOTH ENDS of all of these situations myself in my years as a business owner and as a client.
And the most important thing you can do about each of them is learn from them.
When you get a complaint, you can certainly apologise to the client and have a conversation with them (if they are open minded enough to allow this to happen)…
And you can ask yourself “how can I prevent this from happening again in the future” and you can continue to improve the way you do things and treat people lovingly.
I am a firm believer that there is ALWAYS room for improvement in all areas of a business (and your mindset) and you should always be focussing on improving some area of your self or business.
A business that is perfect or without issues is a dead business, a closed business.
If you’re not prepared to go into business accepting and expecting that there will always be something to work on, fix or improve, then just don’t do it.
Go and get a job instead.
And also remember, that WHEN SOMEONE COMPLAINS, they want to feel heard, cared about, listened to, and important.
So if you can put your own ego aside and help them to feel the way they want to feel, you will be able to turn more complaints and unhappy customers into loyal lifelong raving fans.
(If you have a team, or anyone else who is communicating with your clients or handling complaints, it is super important that they know and understand all of this too).
Love, Carissa xo.
Imagine your thoughts are like powerful magnets.
And everything you think about is slowly being attracted to you with this magnetic energy.
The bigger or heavier the thing, the slower it comes but it is coming.
Are your thoughts primarily focussed on things you do want? Or things you don’t want?
Either way, they’re coming.
At any time you can make a decision to change a thought & get rid of a magnet.
You can let one go, and pick up another.
Everything you are experiencing in your physical reality first started as a thought.
Your home, your car, your tv, computer, phone, your relationships and even YOU at one point were just a thought in someone’s mind.
A decision to be acted upon.
A vision or idea that came to life.
Your business once did not exist.
It started as a thought.
Now look at it!
Be aware of your thoughts often, because you will bring into your reality that which you think about most often whether you desire it or not.
If you want to attract, experience and create a reality that you love…
Be sure to choose to think of what you do want each and every day.
Write it down to solidify it and make it real, and remind yourself of it frequently.
You are the creator, the source, of everything in your life!
Make sure you are creating the life you want to live. 💫
Love, Carissa xo.
A lot of people ask me why nobody likes their stuff on Facebook. The reason is simple and the solution is an easy fix. 😉
What are you going to do differently to get more engagement?
(If you need ideas, I have a short ebook called “social skillz” which has a content idea for every day of the month for you
You know when you just get a weird VIBE about some people?? Even in their social media posts?
That’s their energy you’re picking up on.
If you really pay attention, you can usually tell the people that are acting from a place of selfishness, desperation, negativity or greed…
You can also tell the people who are genuinely wanting to help, add value, contribute, educate or entertain…
It’s important to know this because this means the people who are seeing & reading your posts are picking up on your energy too.
So think twice before you post.
How are you feeling?
What is your intention?
How is this post benefiting those who are seeing it?
And how is it benefiting you?
Remember, in order to get what you want, you’ve got to be offering something of value in return.
If nobody values what you’re sharing, they’re just not going to respond! 🤷♀️
So are you getting responses from what you are sharing (whether that be posts or ads)?
If not why do you think that is?
Not sure, get in touch, maybe I can help 🙂
Love, Carissa xo.