“SHE THINKS SHE’S SOOOOOOO GOOD”
How dare she.
How dare she believe that she is amazing, and talented, and that she can do, be & have everything she wants.
How dare she show up in the world with confidence.
How dare she speak her mind.
How dare she look that good.
How dare she decide that she wants to be incredibly successful and desire to make millions of dollars.
How dare she spend her money on expensive things, doesn’t she know that money doesn’t buy happiness?
How dare she work so much on her business while she has young children… she’ll never get that time back, she should be enjoying it.
FUCK. THIS. SHIT.
Have you ever heard anyone ever say anything like this about another woman?
Have you ever had anyone else say anything like this to YOU?
Ohhh. it makes me cranky.
And, up until this point. I have said nothing.
Defaulted into the good girl.
The nice girl.
The girl who doesn’t wan’t to cause a scene so she refrains from saying what she really believes because she fears that someone else won’t agree with it and she is afraid of confrontation.
HOW DARE SHE NOT BELIEVE IN HERSELF?!
HOW DARE SHE NOT KNOW SHE IS AMAZING, AND KNOW THAT SHE CAN HAVE EVERYTHING WITHOUT SACRIFICING ANYTHING?!
WHY IS IT THAT SHE IS EXPECTED TO LOVE HERSELF YET NOT LET ANYONE ELSE KNOW THAT SHE DOES?
Why is it that when she has dreams and goals that are bigger than most, she talks herself OUT of them with thoughts like “oh, but I don’t need that” or “I have enough” or “I should be happy with what I have”
Let me tell you what, princess…
If everyone was always just happy with what they had…
THE WORLD WOULD NEVER FUCKING CHANGE!!
In order for Evolution to even be a thing… the world needs inventors, creators, teachers, artists, researchers, and people who genuinely believe THEY CAN DO THE THINGS THEY WANT TO DO – and that they deserve to.
The people that tell you that you don’t “need” that, or that you need to “stop working so hard” or that you should be “humble” or “lady-like” – LET THEM BE THAT WAY.
They are not like you.
You know they are not like you.
SO WHY ARE YOU ALLOWING THEM TO HOLD YOU BACK WHEN YOU KNOW DEEP IN YOUR BONES YOU ARE AMAZING AND YOU NEED TO UNLEASH YOUR AMAZINGNESS WITH THE WORLD?!
I dare you.
I DARE YOU.
To believe you are amazing, talented, and that you can be, do and have everything that you want.
I dare you to show up in the world with confidence.
I dare you to speak your mind.
I dare you to look your best.
I dare you to decide that you are going to be incredibly successful and to decide that you are going to make millions of dollars.
I dare you to spend your money on expensive things, if you want them, and if they make you feel good.
I dare you to work as much as you want on your business while you have young children.
I don’t doubt that that has ANY impact on how you feel about them or how they feel about you, what-so-ever.
I DARE YOU TO STOP HIDING & STEP OUT OF THE SHADOWS.
I DARE YOU TO STOP PRETENDING THAT YOU ARE NOT INCREDIBLE.
I DARE YOU TO STOP GIVING A FLYING FUCKITY FUCK WHAT OTHER PEOPLE MIGHT THINK.
I DARE YOU TO BE “ALL THAT AND THEN SOME” FROM THIS POINT FORWARD.
I DARE YOU TO USE SHOUTY CAPITALS AND NOT BE AFRAID THAT SOMEONE MIGHT THINK YOU ARE BEING TOO SHOUTY (yes, real past fear of mine from personal experience)…
So, will you take the dare?
Reply and let me know!
Love, Carissa xo
So this is a really, really, really, really important thing for anyone who wants to succeed, and be happy, and manifest more abundance and goodness into your life.
And that is to celebrate every single win, no matter what size it is.
Every win is a win.
This is something I have seen over and over again in some of my online courses over the last few years, and that is when people get bummed out about only having a small win.
But it’s not a small win!
It’s a win!
You’re getting results.
You’re getting clients.
You’re making money.
When you get disappointed with your results, it comes from setting expectations or comparing yourself to other people.
It’s a sure fire way to attract more lack and negativity into your life when you can’t see the good in the good things that are happening to you.
Here’s how to look at things from an abundant mindset:
A bunch of people have been asking about Instagram lately.
I would not consider myself an Instagram expert in any sense.
I’m way more Facebook marketing savvy.
Although I do use Instagram and I do use Instagram to get leads for my business.
So that’s growing my email list, growing my Facebook group, and of course, getting people to fill out their details because they’re interested in one of my courses or programs.
I don’t promote anything actually promotional on Instagram really.
On Facebook I share results that my clients are getting inside my business, well that’s most of what my marketing is really – just showing off screenshots of client results.
But I don’t do any of that Instagram.
The way that I kind of use it is – and I did the same exact thing in my beauty salon and in my coaching business – where I just kind of share stuff that I like.
Because I know my ideal clients are like me.
I want to attract people into my life and business that are like me.
People that are a bit weird, inappropriate, like to have fun, and be a bit crazy but also really serious about growing a successful business and will do whatever it takes and isn’t going to stop themselves.
I do post pictures of myself because I am my own brand but I would classify myself as an influencer and have only pictures of myself and do modelling photos and all that.
We do take some of my but I usually accompany them with a blog post that is about a certain topic or answering a certain question that someone has asked me or telling a story of how a client overcame something or how I overcame something.
So everything that I post on Instagram is based on…
Ooohhh – watch the full video to hear all the juicy details!
So here’s the thing about your life and your business…
You are only going to get out of it what you are prepared to put into it – in all areas.
This includes actions, obviously, but also the thoughts and the energy you give to all areas of your life.
Let’s look at romantic relationships firstly… if you want a deep, loving, emotional connection with your partner, and a lot of affection…
Have a look at yourself first – are you being loving and affectionate? Are you deeply communicating & expressing honestly how you feel? Are you thinking loving thoughts about your partner? Are you expressing your love and appreciation for them regularly? Are you prioritising the relationship?
OR – are you expecting THEM to give all of this to you without you being prepared to give it??
Next, lets look at your business.
Many business owners I come across spend a lot of TIME doing the work in their business, working working working, yet not getting out what they deserve…
Yes, DOING THE WORK is what grows the business, but then, it also isn’t…
Because there are several different types of “work”
The most important kind is making the time to work on YOURSELF. Your thoughts, your plans, your vision, your goals, your mindset, your self development, self awareness, your mental health & your education!
If you are not first of all working on growing and improving your SELF – how on earth can your business grow any bigger than that??
If you want your business to give you back kindness and love, you need to be putting kindness and love into it (with the team, with the clients, with the marketing, with yourself)
If you want your business to give you back time and money – YOU NEED TO BE PUTTING TIME AND MONEY INTO IT.
(and not in the way of working 14hrs a day and spending everything on business expenses)
You need to sit down, each day, and spend time thinking, planning, setting your intentions, reviewing your goals and progress, asking yourself what you want from the day ahead…
If you want a better & more loving relationship with your family, have a look at what kind of energy you are putting into it currently.
My business and relationships started to grow and improve rapidly in all areas when I decided to start prioritising putting into them what I wanted to get out.
You can’t expect to get what you’re not prepared to give.
Try it, let me know how it feels…
Love, Carissa xo
When you decide to own the fact that there’s some (or in my case many) things in life that you’d just rather not DO ever again (even if it feels like you “should” because it’s what you’ve been taught by family, teachers, society, whatever)…
And you just decide to prioritise NOT doing it and finding someone who does love doing those things so you can just do the good, fun & messy things – life gets WAAAAYYYY better in literally every way.
Stop trying to be perfect at everything and just focus on doing what lights you up.
Delegate the rest to people who are better at it than you are!! (Home stuff, business stuff, whatever).
You’ll make more money by doing what you love & what makes you happy anyway. (Don’t try to save it by doing things that crush your soul).
What will you be delegating? Reply, let me know, and make yourself accountable ;).
Love, Carissa xo.
If you believe that money is bad or evil, and that it’s greedy and selfish to want or desire to make a lot of money…
Then firstly, you’re never going to make a lot of money…
And secondly, you’re maybe not really thinking about money the right way??? You see, money is an exchange of value and energy.
So usually, people who make a lot of money are putting a lot of their energy into giving a lot of value.
One of my favourite ever quotes from the book The Go-Giver says: “Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them”
And what I see a lot of in poor and poor-mindset people is that they automatically see people who have made a lot of money for themselves as bad / evil / greedy etc…
Without ever giving a thought towards what they have given or done, or how many lives they’ve changed or people they’ve helped in order to get that money.
Money doesn’t just come to anybody magically without them providing some sort of value to someone else.
It could be in the form of entertainment (actors) or education (teachers / consultants) or even personal or spiritual help (coaches, mentors, guides)…
Or it could be fixing anyone’s problem via a product or service that any business provides…
But in short, the more people you help, the more money you make.
The more value you contribute, the more you receive.
The more money you make, the more you can give and do good things with too! (You don’t have to hoard it all for yourself)!
Quite often some of the wealthiest people donate & contribute more than most even realise.
People who like to give for the sake of giving often don’t make a big deal about it as they don’t do it for recognition…
So think before you judge, always.
And if you want to make a lot of money, don’t go around thinking “how can I make lots of money”
Ask yourself “how can I give so much value to peoples lives and help them get what they want in exchange for their investment in themselves” – and then reply to this email with your answer!!
Because people don’t pay you for your products and services… They pay you for the result they want for themselves.
Love, Carissa xo
Ok guys, so this is a fun, little exercise for if you ever are trying to make a decision between two things.
It could be maybe I wanna do this thing, maybe I wanna do that thing…
It could be tossing up between two boys that you wanna date…
It could be tossing up between two things you want to order on the menu…
Any time you are stuck making a decision between two things (it has to be two things for this to really work) and you’re not sure which direction to go in or which option to take, this is the best way of doing it.
That is simply, flipping a coin.
BUT, it’s a little bit different to how you would normally flip a coin…
Double BUT – you have to watch the latest Coffee With Carissa to find out more!
For those of you who can never stop thinking about your business…
My advice is…
Why would you even want to?
When you love it that much it is literally who you are!
I think if you can easily stop thinking about your business, or if you want to, then maybe that business isn’t actually what you’re meant to be doing with your life
12yrs in business this year for me and even though I’m cray cray & I’ve run 10+ different biz models in that time…
(Graphic & web design, print & promotional products, salon services, wholesale products, training courses, coaching / consulting / teaching, lead generation, online courses)
Never have I ever completely stopped thinking about my biz.
Nor do I desire to.
It fulfils me. It’s my life. It’s who I am.
You never need to feel bad or guilty about not being able to switch off WHO YOU ARE.
Love, Carissa xo.
So I just wanted to show you how I create my online courses.
It’s really, really simple.
I thought it had to be me on camera for a lot of the trainings and I put it off for a long time when I started.
I thought I was constantly going to have to get dressed up and made up every day, filming heaps of videos of myself.
While some people do that, and that’s an option, I find it easier for me, when I’m teaching to not be on camera.
I like being on camera for my content marketing videos but for my actual teachings and trainings I feel like I can teach better when I’ve prepared slides so I don’t forget what I’m talking about.
I don’t know, I get more in the zone when I’m not focused on a camera looking at me if that makes sense?
But this is what works for me…
Watch the full video of the latest Coffee With Carissa Episode to see how easy it really is!
Straight up – I was really nervous to make this video.
I don’t normally talk about things like this.
What this has been inspired from is, someone recently attempted to call me out on some things in another Facebook group.
I actually really loved this and I felt called to share this with you because there a some things that have come up that I think will really help some people.
So the inspiration for this video comes from someone talking about me from a skeptical perspective.
Which is fine and it’s healthy – and I’m actually grateful for this happening.
Ok, so here’s the story.
Someone has come into a Facebook group and said, ‘WATCH OUT for Carissa Hill! She seems to be good at selling things but has she ever owned a salon or had a successful business?’
Now I always try to come from a perspective of empathy and understanding when anyone has anything negative to say about me, my business or my product or anything like that.
And to start with you kind of get that hit of anxiety like, ‘oh my gosh, someone is saying something bad about me!’
But I’ve done so much self development over the years that I was able to look at the situation from their perspective because I used to feel that way too.
Back when I was younger and in business, before I had any coaches or mentors or courses or anything, I used to see all these stories about big results that people were getting from working with coaches and my initial perspective or thoughts weren’t that I wanted to work with a coach too and get those kinds of results.
It was, ‘yeah right!’ (not possible)
But now, years later and having spent 100’s of thousands of dollars on my education and development, I know the truth.
Having worked with so many different and amazing coaches and reading endless books to level up my skills, I have proof that says otherwise.
I’m living and breathing the reality of success and I want to share that with you so you can experience the proof for yourself!!
Watch the full replay below!